Holidays: Mother's Day | Little LDS Ideas We already talk about the topic, motherhood, every Sunday. I am not sure what other words I can use to convey my meaning when I rely so heavily on tone. Mothers Day gifts at church should be like free t-shirt day at the baseball game. I was supposed to talk two weeks ago on the purpose of the Sacrament but ended up in surgery instead, and upon returning to church last Sunday was asked to reschedule. Thanks for all your thoughts. That we be a great subject for Mother's Day. Of Good Cheer: The Most Motherly Mother's Day | Meridian Magazine Great post, Mark! Please know that it is worth it then, now, and forever.. Be patient with her imperfections, for she has them. He gets points for effort and most humorous and memorable! My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. You can still give the women the day off. I did this for five years and the sisters seemed to enjoy sitting, chatting, and not having a child demanding a bit of their pie. Wow! Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? Some years it gets a nod, other years the talks are unrelated. Latter Day Arrangements is a sheet music resource for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and other Christians. The Mothers Day talks in my singles wards have been quite sensitive to childless women, but still pretty women-on-pedestalsy. The speaker described how she saw her mothertake stock of the smoking wreckage of her life, humble herself, and begin the heroic and difficult work of transforming her life into something she didnt need to be ashamed of anymore. 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I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. That was the job of the family, and for single sisters, the home teacher. It is a simple answer, and it is trueThe most important thing a father can do for his [daughter] is to love [her] mother.'. With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. Now they never had fought, yet they did not fear death; and they did think more upon the liberty of their fathers than they did upon their . . What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? Mother's Day: My talk by Kaimi Wenger May 5, 2009 23 Comments It's hard to strike the right balance, between affirming Moms who really need to be told that they made a good decision; and letting others (especially women) know that they're okay, too. Well, you dear women, I say thanks to you. Or any talk. My husband told me to stop focusing on myself and think about who mothered me instead. Forgive me for not understanding the blessing part of it. My kids are too old for primary and dont go to church anyway (and my mother died when my youngest was 2 yrs old), so I have no reason to go and hear all about how perfect someone else is, or that I should have been perfect, or the lie that all of us mothers are perfect. Honestly, considering how touchy this subject is (women w/out kids, abusive moms, separated/divorced men who don't want to be, moms who've passed, etc), I'd focus on Womanhood. iPad. I dont mean to be rude, but I know I will have anxiety over killing it and then I *will* kill it and then I will have to look at its dead body. Actually now that I do have children, the primary song Im so glad when Daddy comes home has taken on a new meaning for me. I have attended other Christian churches enough to realize why it is much less likely that they have painful mothers day talks. What does this mean about women? 10 years after my first child was born, I still detest Mothers Day. We got a response from172 females and 51 males. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. I agree with #15youth speaker, song and chocolate and the rest of the meeting devoted to Christ. At least half the ward was so embarrassed for her at this point that they looked as if they wanted to crawl under the benches. I know of no better answer to [the] foul practices that confront our young people than the teachings of a mother, given in love with an unmistakable warning.. If you take one thing away from this not-so-scientific survey, it is, when in doubt, go with chocolate. To the light the lost ones leading, May 6, 2017 All Latter-day Saint Youth Need to Hear Ready to Rise, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, FREE I Can Do All Things Through Christ Sheet Music + Music Video, Latter-day Saint Missionaries Perform Is There Room, Official 2023 Youth Theme Music Video: I Can Do All Things Through Christ, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church. Aleah Ingram May 3, 2021 Entertainment. Thats what insulin is for. Aleah Ingram One year they handed out Sheri Dews talk Are We Not All Mothers? and I thought that was cool. An ideal is fine to have in your own life, but imo it is dangerous to attempt to have one for a worldwide religious organization. I wish that EVERY ward had a FD talk on what unrighteousness dominion is, and why it should be the job of every priesthood holder and father to raise sons who understand it and daughters who wont stand for it. Re-reading my comment (101) it sounds very harsh even though that is not how I mean it to sound. 1 Dead, 1 Injured in Shooting During LDS Sacrament Meeting in Nevada. April 24, 2016 in General Discussions. All women should strive to be strong, and can become strong. It was the service ofthe sisters that made the talk memorable. What are we trying to create? Oh, we also get candy bars with the flowers, music in sacrament and the 3rd hour social time. Then she spoke with conviction about the grace of Godthe grace that helped her forgive herself for the serious problems she caused her children that could have been prevented if shed prepared herself, and the grace that helped her achieve later in life the spiritual depth she had lacked when her children were young. In the garden He said, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death (Matthew 26:38). Latter-day Saints to Attend Sacrament Meeting Only on Christmas Day Perhaps it shouldnt be mothers day, but be Womans day and celebrate the contributions of women of faith in their families and communities. What to Expect at Latter-day Saint Church Services This is Elder Hollands second appearance on this list of LDS talks on motherhood. Evry cry of pity heeding, We need ideals especially ones who arent ideal, so we can redefine ideal. . Ideals ALL! Your comment was excellent, especially this part: Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mother's Day. This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ loves.feed my sheep, etc.https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/wanted-hands-and-hearts-to-hasten-the-work?lang=eng. She cares about your eternal safety and happiness. Based on the comments it seems to be prevalent everywhere in the US church. If I would obtain the blessing, #109 Rayloved the roller coaster quote on motherhood. Get plenty HPs and Elders. That in no way shape or form precludes me from looking to Christ/HF/HM for ideals. Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. However, the restored gospel is true and is a steady guide for us in nagivating the oftimes foggy seas of life. She told us that as a girl, she would sit in her room crying, with big welts on the back of her hands, but now that she was grown up, she understood why her mother did it, and she was grateful, by golly. Elder Ballard mainly focused on young mothers in this talk from 2008. Those were the kinds of talks I gave, and thats what I would rather listen to. There are a number of other conference talks on the subject (righteous traditions, family traditions, etc.). The Puritans werent big on celebrations, so they dropped it when they colonized Massachussetts. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? Last year, I gave this talk. Measure your words with that assumption in mind. A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. It was a one day break from the 40 day Lent cycle to give a feast in honor of Mom with cakes and flowers and her grown children visiting from afar. Now we have a tradition that during the last ten minutes of priesthood meeting, they gather all the classes from deacons to high priests together in the multi-purpose room and present them with Fat Boy ice cream sandwiches. I recommend that you take President Eyrings approach and assume that the women to whom you are speaking are doing their best, but that often their very best means just barely hanging on. Make sure you understand where that line is. It seemed to strike just the right tone. I could send you a PDF of the sheet music, but it's probably too late now for your choir and Primary to prepare in time for Mother's Day. Our ward always does flowers, right after Sacrament meeting, and this is a real problem for me because of my allergies. Thank you for writing this blog post. Steve P, The answer has been taught by the Lords prophets. Alma 56:47-48. She only did half the things a good mother would have done. I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time. When we value families so strongly we should celebrate the roles of motherhood and fatherhood. You can still give the women the day off. Less than nothing because the message of such a gift is that the person is not important. I am a single (divorced) old man with no children. While it addresses questions about how to raise a girl, the talk also discusses the nobility of fatherhood, the influence fathers have on children, how to cherish your wife, and why virtue is so important. Mothers day will likely be about Gods unconditional love for us and how it pains Him to see us struggle And how even mothers cannot quite reach that level of love, but we understand the concept because most of us love our children in much the same way (but n, Focus your talk on how much we ALL need Jesus (even mothers) because we are all sinners (read the Bible It tells us so). me) before deciding on these speakers. I pray the Spirit will be with me today as I give this talk. Through this ordinance, Church members renew the covenants they made with God when they were baptized. Questions and Answers about the Sacrament, Remember Jesus Christ during the Sacrament, The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part1: Loss and Christian Reformations), The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part2: A New and Ancient Covenant), Sharing Time: Be Grateful for the Sacrament, Viewpoint: The Sacred Ordinance of the Sacrament, Young Men, Teach about the Sacrament, Brother Beck Says. Is this our Sharon Haynie from DN branch? All MD is a day I prefer to play hookey, especially now that my mother is currently lost in alzheimers disease. Personally, I like cookies. I love that song but our ward music coordinator has musical numbers lined up already. I remember something I was told many years ago by a young man in Provo, UT. (Just what mothers need on an already stressful day . Its hard for those without children, who are likely never to have children, to listen to motherhood talks that don't address their situation. I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that . I spoke about her one year. 2 women spoke about motherhood. I have been avoiding the mother's day sacrament meeting for the last couple of years. But shes never experienced the horrors I have where the local ward nut case talks about how his wife isnt putting out thanks to menopause. Elder Perry uses personal stories and memories of his own mother to illustrate the importance of teaching the gospel inside the home. Excuse everyone after Sacrament meeting to spend the time with their mothers. I do think it is easy to understand my point and I appreciate it when others understand my position. (Sorry to barge in madhousewife). In simple terms his philosophy was that the church is not true because it is madeconsists of people who are imperfect and therefore not always true to all of the ideals taught. Gospel Q&A: How Can I Find and Foster Celestial Love? As the son of a mother who was destroyed every Mothers Day, and seeing many similar experiences here, I plan to stick to the Christ-centric meeting next year. At the end of the survey there was a comments box where individuals could leave specific feedback to bishoprics that organize Mothers Day. . She was not a perfect mother, but I loved her. Christian churchs teach that you are inherently bad, that it is not entirely your fault and that Christ has already saved you and after He gets around to telling you (if He hasnt already) that you forgiven and are His, you will do nonspecific good things he directs because you will naturally want to do them. And Im batting clean up. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. I cant remember the last time I heard a bad sacrament meeting talk, period. 2) If your outfit doesnt match, no one who matters will notice. The best Mothers Day talk Ive ever heard was an illustration of this principle. Just to be clear - I meant 'written/given' by women (aka musical number "O My Father" written by Eliza R Snow, conf talk by Reeve/Oscarson/Okazaki). Gospel Q&A: My Children Have Left the Church & I Worry for Their Souls. Others must be killed or theyll live forever, injuring regular folk. Regular G.A.S. My wife spoke on Mothers Day (which I originally thought was a bad choice, because she herself appears to the outside world to be the perfect mother) about her own mother and some of the simple things her mother had done for her that made a big difference in her life and how grateful she was. Intent matters, and I dont believe the idealism we are fed is meant to hurt, but rather to uplift. She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. But as for now no praise deserved but the praze to the heavenly Father. Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? It hits pretty close because Im one of those lucky people who get to speak on Mothers Day this year. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. Yeah. After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. Another angle in this specific holidayhas been brewing for a while. (did I mention he and his wife were not parents yet?). A nod to moms but no pedestal worshiping. It is the essence of who we are as women. Over the years, Ive heard some very good Mothers Day talks, but I have also heard some that were cringe-worthy. Further, that it wasnt the wards responsibility to celebrate the day. When He instituted the sacrament, Jesus Christ said, This is my body which is given for you: this do in remembrance of me. They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. Weve gathered this collection to help you study, write talks, and share powerful LDS quotes about mothers. Yes. What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! I have work enough to do, Thanks for clarifying. Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests..